This tumblr page is associated with my primary website: http://AsexualSexologist.com . Here I will quote some of the answers I've collected from my asexual survey takers (with their permission). it's important to recognize the variety of perspectives within the asexual community and I hope that juxtaposing the answers I have collected will help people (particularly those who are not part of the ace community) do that.
“someone who does not experience sexual attraction”
“Defining “sexual orientation” as “who you’re attracted to in a would-have-sex-with way,” I’m asexual. Defining “sexual orientation” as “who you’re attracted to physically or can visualize in any kind of intimate relationship,” I’m bisexual. The defining characteristic in my pattern of attraction, however, is clearly sadomasochism, so to the exten that SM is an orientation I identify as submissive. That would be the identification most important to me.”
“I choose queer as my label.”
“pansexual was the term I was using before I learned the asexual term … been with both gender’s could care less for either gender, to me its the person not the gender that i have my attraction to.”
“Tend to identify as asexual because I honestly find ridiculous how people want to categorize every little difference from the others in them. I don’t experience sexual attraction than I am asexual, if I experienced sexual attraction I would consider myself sexual even if it came as a consequence of romantic attraction.”
“would be gray-a but more on the ace side than the demi side. hope that makes sense. (i don’t really like labels though. my sexuality is so low on my system that i won’t let it be part of my identity)”
“Aromanitc Asexual but not too sure about the first part”
“I tend to just think of myself as asexual, rather than gray-a or demi, despite the fact that I’m probably closer to one of those. I feel that the gray-a definition isn’t strict enough to define what I feel that I am, but straight up asexual is a bit too strict.”
“Don’t have a lot of love for labels. But asexual works for my purposes”
“I use queer mostly because there is more knowladge about it ( and saying I’m ace could cause contradictions)”
Responses to this question: “Please tell me what ONE label you most identify with as it related to your sexual orientation.” from my March Survey, “Asexual Sexuality”
Note: This is not meant to be a representative sample. At the time of posting I have collected 76 responses, these are just my favorite.
“I still identify as heterosexual but I’ve been finding that I don’t quite fit that label. So I’ve been looking around the Web and a lot of definitions that I’ve found of asexuality really seem to fit me.”
“I suppose you could call me a grey-a homoromantic, if that can be used as a label? I’m really new to all the terms, and I’m not sure if we can just collaborate them at will or if there’s a procedure to follow.”
“More unsexual. Is that a thing? Well, it is now. Although even that is not particularly accurate. Maybe notsexual. Except that I am. Often.”
“I hate the word “asexual” as a means of defining sexuality. (As a biologist, I’d rather reserve the word “asexual” to describe the kind of reproduction that doesn’t involve genetic recombination.) My issue, though, is only with the word choice. I do consider myself to be a member of the group that has chosen to accept the “asexual” label for itself.”
“I identify myself as “at least functionally asexual,” meaning that I can find people aesthetically pleasing and even personally attractive, but I still have no desire to see them with their clothes off.”
“Yes, mostly, though I could just be messed up”
“99% asexual, though I don’t know myself well enough to know for sure.”
“Yes, at the moment I identify as gray-A since I have never been in a romantic relationship and therefore do not know for sure whether I am asexual or demisexual.”
“Usually I just think of myself as asexual, but I think grey-a is more accurate. I may be demisexual, but I don’t know.”
Responses to the question “Do you identify as asexual or a variation there of (ie gray-a, demisexual, etc)?” from my March Survey “Ace Sexuality”
Note: This is not necessarily a representative sample, at the time of this post I have collected 76 responses, these were just the answers I found the most interesting (most of the others were one-word).