This tumblr page is associated with my primary website: http://AsexualSexologist.com . Here I will quote some of the answers I've collected from my asexual survey takers (with their permission). it's important to recognize the variety of perspectives within the asexual community and I hope that juxtaposing the answers I have collected will help people (particularly those who are not part of the ace community) do that.
“Does that mean you use fragrant soaps?”
My aunt, commenting on my facebook status coming out as aro ace. Can’t say I’ve gotten that one before. ~grins~
No but really, how hard is it to get? Being asexual = you don’t experience sexual attraction to people. And that’s it. You can be sexually active. You can masturbate. You can have romantic feelings. You can have relationships. You can have kids. You can get married.
It’s. Not. That. Fucking. Hard. To. Get.
Ok, everyone. I am gonna come out officially.
I AM HETEROROMANTIC GREY-A(SEXUAL)
There you go. Direct questions to my ask.
littlepaperfrogs asked: Hello! I saw your mention of an asexual couple who was denied adoption because of their asexuality, and I was wondering - do you have any more information about that for those of use who weren't at the conference?
You can see the presentation of the survey/research in which that couple participated here: http://lgbtec.org.uk/page/watch-live (Scroll down until you see “Olivier Cormier Ortano - Pink Therapy Asexuality: Doing without” (#27). The video only streams, there’s no way to fast forward and as I recall he doesn’t get around to discussing the personal accounts (as opposed to discussing the statistics) until a long way in. Also worth noting that at the begining he says he found a definition for “asexuality” in the DSM and then gives the definition of HSDD (*sigh*). I believe this was the first time he presented this work and in subsequent presentations he significantly improves his wording. I don’t think he has published this research but you could probably find contact information for him somewhere, I just don’t have it handy.
Anonymous asked: Are women more likely to be asexual than men? And why is this?
That’s a very interesting way to ask the question… in all but one study of asexuals the sample of asexuals had more (significantly more) women than men. If we figure that at any given time roughly 1-3% (depending on the study) of the population is asexual and women and men hover around 50/50 as far as world population then I suppose, in a very small way, women are more likely to be asexual… Maybe 2% of women compared to 1% of men if you go with the high estimate of 3% or a similar ratio breakdown for other estimates which I suppose would still suggest “twice as likely” ? But I’m not sure how I feel about that as a definitive statement… more like I’m thinking out loud… but if I think of a better way to answer your question I’ll come back to it…
Anonymous asked: Hi, I just wanted to thank you for your youtube comments on the lacigreen video. Answering a ton of questions and showing a lot of patience with "that one guy". Have some :cake:, you have seriously earned it! A fellow Ace.
Clearly I don’t check Formspring very often… thank you :)
Anonymous asked: What is your opinion on objectum sexuality?
It’s a very interesting expression of sexuality. It isn’t my experience but it is genuinely the experience of some people. Just like any other expression of sexuality that I don’t share, I pretty much take the word of the people who are actually experiencing it. Assuming you’re the same person who submitted a query via my site a minute ago please see the e-mail I sent you.